Let me just say that this time last year I had the same amount of workload with life, church, school, and work but was a lot happier...not sure why the change, or why I feel so constantly stressed. Because of that, I have been up since 7am on a Saturday morning (again) and I keep having to do stuff to keep busy or I feel like I'm going to explode. That being said, my train of thoughts brought me to this topic: Attraction. Lately people keep asking me about my dating life, and I will admit that the dating pool isn't too full this monthly, however, a big part of that is by choice, a lot by circumstance. I don't have a type of girl I am looking for, I have dated blondes, brunettes, red heads, older, and younger, but it all comes back to the point that there are just certain girls I am attracted to and some that I am not. And since that narrows the field, of those I am attracted to, there are only so many that will in return be attracted to me. Now I want to preface this next part by saying that I genuinely respect all women, regardless of my relationship with them. I place all women on a pedestal, and feel like all men should. That being said, I digress; I once jokingly had a conversation with a group of female friends about how guys place girls in 1 of 3 categories: A. Just friends, B. Kiss but not date, C. Date-able. Female family members don't have a category because they are family and this isn't the backwoods of Alabama. I know the categories sounds shallow, but most younger single guys would agree with it. And in all fairness this conversation took place while they were having me rate the attractiveness of some women in a wedding catalog (that in itself is its own story). I am honestly not a fan of category B because I think too many guys use it and use women for it. Now at least in my perspective, category A isn't a bad place though. Some of my closets friends are my female friends. I would gladly give up most of my guy friends for them because they mean a lot to me. Many of those women are probably reading this blog post. And a few of them were there for the conversation about the categories too. Anyway, I bring this up because I was talking to my mom about my dating life and then it hit me: Oh my gosh, women probably think the same thing about me! I am probably in 1 of 3 categories for them too: Friend, Hookup, date-able. I immediately felt bad for any women I have ever objectified because I felt like a piece of meat and it was weird ha ha ha. Thinking about this further though, I realized that for every girl I ever broke up with or wasn't attracted to, there is/was another guy out there who was and appreciated her for the things I did not, and I am happy for them. On the opposite end, for every girl who has broken up with me, or wasn't attracted to me, I know that there is going to be another girl that I find at some point who will appreciate me and be attracted to my different qualities. Its sad to see girls who chase after guys, but the guys don't appreciate them for their unique qualities. I think everyone needs and can find someone who will adore them and be attracted to them for all of their unique attributes, whether it be physical or personality based. So despite the fact that I get harassed for my dating life right now, I know that there is someone out there for me who will be attracted to me and care enough about me to put me on a pedestal, just like I know I will do for them. Although, Ill always put them on a higher pedestal because that's just how I roll.
This blog is long enough, but just know there is a story coming about how a woman at work once told me my personality turns off women....also I am 7 years clean from cancer this year...SUCK IT CANCER
I find this entry to be very fascinating. And I feel honored to have discussed it with you before. :) Your logic is sound. Oh, and happy 7th anniversary!!
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